Look Into The Mirror!
We women often ask this question – WHO WE ARE? WHAT ARE DOING? WHY ARE WE DOING WHAT WE ARE DOING? Innumerable questions signalling single issue – What’s your IDENTITY? For decades women in India have been undergoing this situation, yet there isn’t any solution. We are the ones who are facing yet ignoring and worst doing to the next generation of women. IRONY! isn’t it?
In India, Since childhood we were told to be good in studies, studies are very important. Then once we get great degrees and positions we need to have a good job. Got the job as well! Now the Game Begins – this job isn’t for you to become independent, excel in your career and become financially free. But this job is for making you eligible for the Groom Market! Your chances of getting a good groom increases if you do these steps. Resonates with me! At the age of 23 or 24, your fashion parade starts. See that boy, this boy n number of boys, Finally hooked and despatched. Problem isn’t lying in this process, the problem lies in the intention why we are doing this process? Being part of the 21st century, of course parents are willingly supporting their gals with higher education and career decisions but are doing this with the intent in mind as well. Now the Intent clashes with the upbringing creating a massive void called IDENTITY CRISIS!
How do we deal with this situation? Let’s see what question women asked me and my perspectives on it –
Q1. What is the Identity Crisis?
My Perspectives – Identity is your outlook about yourself! When you look into the mirror and say who are you? What are you doing? What is your life purpose? Believe me you are in the middle of this crisis.
Q2. How do we know the symptoms?
My Perspectives – Symptoms can be indecisiveness, Self-Doubt, fearing changes, resisting due to lack of courage, not knowing passions, not knowing your values etc…
Q3. Dear Richa, This is regarding my career. I am an MBA and worked for a couple of years before marriage. But post marriage, I really haven’t settled on a career. I do any job at any salary just to ensure that I am working. But I’m actually not satisfied. My in-laws support the thought of working but don’t support me working. I feel worked up all day handling both home and work front, get exhausted and then the thoughts start to take me up like let me leave this job. I am not satisfied with the work culture or environment etc.. All this creates a lot of friction in me. Please suggest What should I do?
My Perspectives – Hey gal! The constant chatter in your head about your career and how to manage is creating friction. This friction leads you to make decisions which aren’t really thought over but you take them under emotional pressures. Feel guilty so you go back on the decisions. This is a vicious cycle you and your identity are being struck. I want you to Spend some time thinking about your goals in life. What do you want to achieve? Ask yourself what brings joy and happiness to you? It is definitely an alarming situation that you are having with respect to unfulfilled life and no sense of satisfaction. So for finding ways to satisfy your urge of having a good career you need to develop clarity and create a system around how it will work. Be thoughtful of your words, actions and responses. Communicate to your family firmly what you want and expect from them. Need help to go through this transformation process, then take life coaching!
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Richa Chaturvedi is a Women Empowerment Strategist and Coach and the founder of EmpowHer. Her purpose is to Empower women to find their Identity, connect to their soul, unlock Abundance and attain success in both personal and professional life. She calls them Sheroes, because she feels they are their own heroes.